On this show the topics of healthy boundaries, high character and the human shadow have been examined in depth with guests such as Dr. Paul Dobransky, Paul Levy, Dr. Connie Zweig and Dr. Joe Slate. I’m going to connect these ideas and show you how the healthy mind, body and spirit concept applies directly when assessing the health of a person’s boundary, human energy fields and psychic parasites.
Beginning with boundaries, past guest author and psychiatrist Dr. Paul Dobransky is one of very few who developed a comprehensive visual system to understand and utilize a healthy human boundary and explained that connection to achieving high character. He says your identity in life depends upon learning about boundaries. By doing so, you can learn how to be free from stress and how to command respect.
Essentially, making decisions out of courage, meaning doing the right thing at the time that its needed is making a decision out of courage. It doesn’t necessarily mean you need to be hypervigilant and run around performing acts of heroism. Being mindful and keeping your word such as showing up at the right time or being prepared for a meeting are some everyday examples. Standing up for yourself in an assertive way and learning how to say “no” are other examples. In our interviews Dr. Paul explained the importance of saying no to maintain healthy boundaries and keep the energy exchange in the win-win category.
Taking lose-win deals will overtime empty your tank of self esteem. Stop taking the lose win deals by answering no to those requests. Saying no is closing the visualized door in your boundary wall. As Dr. Paul describes it, your boundary wall has a door or many doors, but its important to visualize the handle attached on the inside of the door, so you control the opening and closing. When you have control of the door, and only accept win-win deals, in addition to making decisions out of courage you build your self esteem. Your self esteem is a combination of well being and confidence. That’s your gold which Dr. Carl Jung refers to when speaking about the psychological condition of the human shadow.